Monday 12 January 2015

My Thoughts On: Goals

Yes yes. This is a beauty blog. It probably always will be until I decide that the world doesn't actually need Nouveau Chique (...wait, it doesn't?!). But sometimes I have thoughts + opinions that I feel like sharing even if y'all don't care. So the first of this series is going to be my thoughts on goals. I am referring to a specific type of goal here. The kind of goal you want to have achieved by the time you're 20/25/30 etc. The kind of goals you want to reach more because you think you should + society tells you should rather than personal goals you've set out for yourself because you're a strong-willed individual. I also feel like this post is definitely more targeted at women than men, which works out well for me because I don't imagine many men find themselves browsing through my favorite shampoos + eyeshadows. 

Below I've put down a few quotes of the types of things I might have said 2-3 years ago + my opinion on them now.

'I want to be on £30,000 by the time I'm 23'
I used to think that straight out of university I would have a decent paid job. I thought I would know exactly what I wanted to do. I'm 23 now + I'm currently still interning (my third internship) because I haven't known exactly what I want to do. My experience is in PR + Social Media but really I'm not sure what I will be doing five years down the line. And that is totally fine. However I'm managing financially is a private matter but the point is that it doesn't matter if you're not earning a certain amount money by x age. It doesn't matter if you're 30 + you still don't know exactly what you want to do. I hate that society makes you think there is an age for everything. You do things at your own pace + things will eventually piece together. As long as you're doing something + you're trying things out then it's fine. It's a process of elimination + it's a journey.

'I want to be married by the time I'm 27'
This is definitely the inspiration behind this whole entire post. Every time there is some sort of family gathering, someone (usually a distant relative) will ask about my love life. 'Have you got a boyfriend? Why not?!' - as if there is something wrong with me. Although the majority of my friends have serious boyfriends, this doesn't mean there is something wrong with me for not having one. I have had two long-term relationships that each went on for over two years + now that I am a bit older I know exactly what I want + what I don't want from a relationship. I am in no way prepared to date anyone that doesn't bring out the best in me anymore, whereas I used to just be scared of being alone. Whether I find someone in a month, a year or in ten years, it doesn't matter. Because as Whitney Houston sang: 'I'd rather be alone than unhappy'.

'I want to have my first child by the time I'm 29'
Actually, I would rather have a child when I am responsible enough to look after one. If I ever decide to have children at all that is. That is all I have to say about that.

Is there something wrong with the fact that I still like going out with my friends, living with my best friend + I would rather go on vacation to Australia when I feel like it than settle down with a man + have a pet pug? Because really I have the rest of my life to do that.

I could go on about this subject forever but whether you're still living at home, single at 40 or struggling to find the right career path... life doesn't go as you planned + it would be sad if it did. When I was younger, I thought I'd have long brown hair + live in a pink + purple house by this point. And thank the lord I don't (ps: shout out to all the girls with long brown hair, it just doesn't suit me). Essentially this post is about living your life at your own pace. As cheesy as it may sound, I think it's important (especially for women) to put their own happiness + decisions first instead of what society expects from them...

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  1. I've never had the children and marriage goals - I think they're so silly! I always think that about salary though - that I want to be on 30k when I come out of uni! It's probably not realistic as graduate jobs are so competitive! xx
    alicekatex ♥

  2. I never had the marriage/children goals, until I met my boyfriend. Knowing that I've found the one makes me want to plan things out a bit more! x

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  3. It's incredible how much we change in just a few short years from our teens to our twenties. I had ages in mind for most things I wanted to do when I was a teenager, but now I'm actually in my twenties I'm just winging it. As long as you're doing what makes you happy, that's all that matters! xo

  4. Lovely post. :) I'm coming to terms with my own expectations, too. The other day, I was thinking about how far I am from the person I wanted to be at 16. And thank goodness for that! I don't think I'd like myself very much if things went according to how I imagined them when I was younger. :)


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